Frequently, we underestimate the power of a simple idea that crosses our mind, an idea like \u201cNothing ever works out well\u201d, something like \u201cIt just couldn\u2019t get worse\u201d, and the classic \u201cI am useless\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m such an idiot!\u201d So, I am going to explain to you the problem with this kind of thoughts and why you shouldn\u2019t allow them in your mind, because believe it or not, they can screw our lives up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The brain is, above all, an organ disconnected from reality, its only way of knowing it is through the eyes and its interpretation of these stimuli, that is, everything the brain sees is translated into images enhanced by a filter, like those we use on Instagram, in order to discard or accentuate what the brain finds interesting. The inconvenience is that many times the result is not necessarily aimed at making us feel good, why? Well, because the brain only looks for evidence of what it already believes, so if we believe \"we are useless\" the brain will look for evidence to remind us of and reinforce this belief.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And that is the root of the dilemma: it turns out that for all beliefs, there will always be evidence. A simple example that will help us understand better is when we are planning to buy a car, we like a specific model and from that moment on we begin to notice many more cars on the street like the one we want; what our brain did was show us more of what it likes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The same thing happens when you are thinking about having a child, suddenly, you notice more expecting women; or if it is not necessarily you who is wishing for a baby, but someone very close to you is pregnant, the effect is the same. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Therefore, when we accept a conditioning that makes us feel bad, our brain will look at all those details that can confirm it, it will point out any mistake you make or even cause you new errors with the purpose of proving that you, in fact, are an idiot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But, shouldn\u2019t the brain work in a positive way? Is it that its job is to screw you up? The truth is that there is no positive or negative for the brain, only interpretations. We must become aware of this with the purpose of replacing these limiting beliefs, first with more neutral ones, and once they are mastered, move to beliefs focused on your exponential growth.v<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A particular example is the affirmation, \"I will never lose weight\", and thus we keep overeating, then comes the guilt, the selfcomplaining, trying again and failing again, and you will say, \"Hell no, I have told myself a thousand times that I will lose 20 pounds and it never works\u201d. The problem with jumping from a negative to a positive extreme is that our brain feels a lot of anxiety, we pull so hard, that it will try even harder so that we fail. How can we solve this? Start by replacing these ideas with more neutral ways, something that doesn\u2019t tell the brain that it has to try too hard, for example: \"Only for today I will try to eat healthy\", \"Today I will try to eat healthier\u201d; that is why Alcoholics Anonymous use the idea of \"One day at a time\", because they understand the power of this thought (on the post \u201cTips to fool the mind\u201d you can read a little more about the subject).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If we start to generate cool thoughts, because I will not refer to them as \u201cpositive\u201d, our brains will start looking for evidence to confirm them: let's replace \"I can't\" with \"I'm trying\", \"I always go wrong\" with \"every mistake is a lesson\", \"I'll never achieve anything\u201d with \u201cI will achieve any objective I commit myself to\u201d, and then we will begin to see a shift in the way we perceive and live life that will bring us closer to our objectives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Would you like to try? Leave a comment with the thought you will begin to change\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Credits<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Imagen: Freepik.com<\/a> | Usuario: @asier_relampagoestudio<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Muchas veces subestimamos el poder de una simple idea que nos pasa por la mente, un pensamiento como “nunca me sale nada bien” o “solo falta que me orine un perro”, las t\u00edpicas frases “soy un in\u00fatil” o “\u00a1ah, no manches, qu\u00e9 pendejo estoy!”; pero te voy a explicar el problema y por qu\u00e9 no debes de permitirte este tipo de juicios, pues aunque no lo creas, joden por completo nuestras vidas. El cerebro es antes que nada un \u00f3rgano desconectado de la realidad, su \u00fanica forma de conocerla es a trav\u00e9s de lo que los ojos ven y el c\u00f3mo \u00e9l interpreta esos est\u00edmulos; es decir, todo lo que capta, lo traduce en im\u00e1genes que han sido “maquilladas” con un filtro, tipo los que usamos en Instagram, con la finalidad de descartar o acentuar lo que le interesa a \u00e9l. El inconveniente es que muchas veces el resultado no necesariamente es para hacernos sentir bien, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9?… Bueno, porque el cerebro s\u00f3lo busca evidencia de lo mismo que ya cree, entonces si tenemos la idea de que “somos unos in\u00fatiles”, \u00e9l buscar\u00e1 pruebas para record\u00e1rnoslo y reforzar en nosotros esa creencia. Es aqu\u00ed donde radica el dilema: resulta que para todo convencimiento, siempre habr\u00e1 un sustento. Un ejemplo sencillo que nos har\u00e1 entender mejor, es cuando estamos buscando comprar un carro, que nos gusta cierto modelo, y a partir de ese momento notamos en la calle muchos m\u00e1s coches como el que queremos; lo que hizo nuestro cerebro fue ofrecernos m\u00e1s de lo que buscamos. As\u00ed pasa tambi\u00e9n con las embarazadas, por ejemplo, si est\u00e1s pensando en tener un hijo, de pronto te percatas de que hay muchas mujeres a tu alrededor en esa condici\u00f3n, o aunque no necesariamente t\u00fa quieras tener un beb\u00e9, simplemente si alguien muy cercano a ti lo est\u00e1, el efecto es el mismo. Por lo tanto, cuando aceptamos un condicionamiento que nos hace sentir mal, nuestro cerebro se fijar\u00e1 en todos esos detalles que pueden confirmarlo, te se\u00f1alar\u00e1 cualquier error que cometas o incluso podr\u00e1 provocarte nuevas equivocaciones con el fin de demostrarte que, efectivamente, \u201ceres un pendejo\u201d. Pero, \u00bfqu\u00e9 no el cerebro deber\u00eda de funcionar en positivo? \u00bfA poco su trabajo es chingarte? La realidad es que para \u00e9l no hay positivo ni negativo, s\u00f3lo interpretaciones. Debemos de comenzar a ser conscientes de ello, con la intenci\u00f3n de reemplazar estos pensamientos limitantes, por pensamientos inicialmente m\u00e1s neutrales, y una vez que se dominen, pasar a creencias que lo que busquen sea tu crecimiento exponencial. Un ejemplo peculiar es la afirmaci\u00f3n \u201cnunca voy a bajar de peso\u201d y por eso seguimos comiendo sin medida, luego viene la culpa, el auto-reclamo, volver a intentar y fallar nuevamente; y dir\u00e1n, \u201cni madres, yo me he dicho mil veces que bajar\u00e9 10 kilos y nunca funciona\u201d. Lo dif\u00edcil de brincar del extremo negativo al positivo, es que nuestro cerebro siente mucha ansiedad, estiramos tanto la liga, que se esforzar\u00e1 mucho m\u00e1s para que fallemos. \u00bfC\u00f3mo resolver esto? Inicia sustituyendo las ideas con formas m\u00e1s neutrales, algo que no le diga al cerebro que tiene que trabajar demasiado, por ejemplo: \u201cs\u00f3lo por hoy intentar\u00e9 comer sano\u201d, \u201ceste d\u00eda probar\u00e9 alimentarme de forma saludable\u201d; por eso los Alcoh\u00f3licos An\u00f3nimos utilizan la frase de \u201cun d\u00eda a la vez\u201d, porque entienden el poder de este pensamiento (en la entrada de “tips para enga\u00f1ar a la mente” pueden buscar un poco m\u00e1s del tema). Entonces, si empezamos a generar pensamientos chingones, porque no les llamar\u00e9 positivos, nuestro cerebro buscar\u00e1 evidencias que los corroboren: cambiemos el \u201cno puedo\u201d por \u201clo estoy intentando\u201d, el \u201csiempre me sale mal\u201d por \u201ccada error es una lecci\u00f3n\u201d, el \u201cnunca lograr\u00e9 nada\u201d por \u201calcanzar\u00e9 cualquier objetivo con el que me comprometa\u201d y entonces veremos c\u00f3mo surgir\u00e1 un cambio en nuestra forma de percibir y de vivir la vida que nos acercar\u00e1 a nuestros objetivos. \u00bfQuieres intentarlo? Deja aqu\u00ed tu comentario de qu\u00e9 pensamiento empezar\u00e1s a cambiar… Cr\u00e9ditos Imagen: Freepik.com | Usuario: @asier_relampagoestudio<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":405,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"book_review_cover_url":"","book_review_title":"","book_review_series":"","book_review_author":"","book_review_genre":"","book_review_isbn":"","book_review_publisher":"","book_review_release_date":"","book_review_format":"","book_review_pages":"","book_review_source":"","book_review_rating":"","book_review_summary":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-281","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life","main-post"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/OH1WAD0.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/281","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=281"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/281\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":412,"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/281\/revisions\/412"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/405"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=281"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=281"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chavalalo.mx\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=281"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}