\"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the mastery of it\" is a great quote by Mark Twain, but let\u2019s be honest, how many people actually freeze when in fear? and then they torment themselves thinking that they never accomplish anything because they are afraid once and again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I hope that with this post I can help you overcome the fears that keep you tied to your comfort zone and prevent you from achieving everything you set out to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Let\u2019s first understand what fear really is. Fear is our brain warning us about the dangers that a situation entails, that feeling of your heart racing, when you start sweating and you feel like your body is telling you that something is wrong. This bodily sensation is a biochemical response to an emotion that we define as fear, but here's the thing, our brain interprets<\/strong> it and two things happen: we have a body reaction and we observe a situation that our brain filters and that automatically goes through our mental models. For example, a call at three in the morning while you are asleep; many people will wake up feeling scared because \"something very bad happened\". The call is not threatening in itself, the interpretation we give it, is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The brain searches for an emotion according to our beliefs, to our emotional dictionary and selects the emotion closest to what it wants to convey; when it is fear, it will consequently trigger the reactions in our nervous system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I don't want you to stop being afraid in a life-threatening situation, the problem is that there is a culture of fear that has served many governments or people to control others. We live in fear because we mistakenly believe that everything can end with our lives, our stability or our security.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One of the things that has been most criticized in handling the COVID-19 crisis this year, has been the terror campaign that governments produced in people, with a high social cost, but which served to keep much of the world population locked up. Fear limits and controls our ability to think rationally, this is because your brain literally sends a lot of blood to the muscles, and guess what? our reasoning becomes clouded because it does not get enough oxygen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It is healthy to feel fear when our life is at risk, but to be honest, many of our fears are unfounded, our life is no longer in danger all the time, so we must ask ourselves when we feel fear: does this fear really protect me? What is the worst that can happen?<\/p>\n\n\n\n According to neuroscience, even fear is built in resonance to the definition we give the word, so if we believe that we feel fear because we simply cannot find a better word, we cause our body to act according to what it means to feel fear. Could you give a different name to that emotion? Is it really fear what I'm feeling? Could it be simply indecision, insecurity or stress?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let's talk about the fears we feel when we don't want to fail, when we believe we can't make more money, when we don't want to make a fool of ourselves, when we simply \"don't know what's going to happen.\" Those fears, why am I feeling them? What can I learn from them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unfortunately we live in fear because our brain does not find a more suitable emotion, we live chained to fear because our brain seeks to keep us to a minimum. A powerful phrase for me is:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Analyze your fears, analyze what they are saying, does your brain want you to simply remain the same person out of comfort? because \"better the devil you know\u2026\"?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Some will say, \"yes, of course, but let's see, what about the fear of death?\u201d...My psychologist once told me that when we are afraid of dying, in truth we are afraid of \u201cnot living\"; it made sense to me and I began to live differently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Credits<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Imagen: Freepik.com<\/a> | Usuario: @teksomolika<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hay una frase que dice: “valiente no es quien no siente miedo, sino el que act\u00faa a pesar de sentirlo”, pero siendo honestos, \u00bfcu\u00e1ntas personas no se quedan congeladas ante \u00e9l? y luego se atormentan la vida pensando en que por “ser miedosas” no logran nada. Espero con esta entrada ayudarte a superar los miedos que te mantienen atado a tu zona de confort e impiden que logres todo aquello que te propones. Primero entendamos qu\u00e9 es el miedo. El miedo es nuestro cerebro advirti\u00e9ndonos sobre los peligros que conlleva una situaci\u00f3n, es esa sensaci\u00f3n en la que adviertes c\u00f3mo tu coraz\u00f3n se acelera, comienzas a sudar y sientes c\u00f3mo tu cuerpo te dice “algo est\u00e1 mal”. Esto es una respuesta bioqu\u00edmica ante una emoci\u00f3n que definimos como miedo, pero he aqu\u00ed el asunto, nuestro cerebro interpreta y, en realidad, ocurren dos cosas; observamos una situaci\u00f3n que nuestro cerebro filtra y pasa por nuestros modelos mentales. Por ejemplo, al recibir una llamada a las 3 am mientras duermes, mucha gente se despertar\u00e1 asustada porque “seguramente pas\u00f3 algo muy malo”; la llamada no es en s\u00ed amenazante, la interpretaci\u00f3n que le damos lo es. El cerebro busca una emoci\u00f3n de acuerdo con nuestras creencias, con nuestro diccionario emocional y selecciona la emoci\u00f3n m\u00e1s cercana a lo que quiere transmitir; cuando es el miedo, por consecuencia disparar\u00e1 las reacciones a nuestro sistema nervioso. No quiero que dejes de tener miedo ante una situaci\u00f3n que pone en peligro tu vida, el problema es que hay una cultura de miedo que ha servido a muchos gobiernos o personas para controlar a los dem\u00e1s. Vivimos atemorizados porque creemos, equivocadamente, que todo puede acabar con nuestras vidas, con nuestra estabilidad o con nuestra seguridad. Una de las cosas que m\u00e1s se ha criticado en el manejo de la crisis con el COVID este a\u00f1o, ha sido la campa\u00f1a de terror que los gobiernos provocaron en la gente, con un alto costo social, pero que sirvi\u00f3 para mantener encerrada a gran parte de la poblaci\u00f3n mundial. El miedo limita y controla nuestra capacidad de pensar racionalmente, esto es porque tu cerebro literalmente manda una gran cantidad de sangre a los m\u00fasculos y \u00bfqu\u00e9 crees? pues nuestro racionamiento se nubla porque no tiene oxigeno suficiente. Es sano sentir miedo cuando nuestra vida est\u00e1 en riesgo, pero siendo sinceros, muchos de nuestros miedos son infundados, nuestra vida ya no est\u00e1 en peligro todo el tiempo, por lo que debemos de preguntarnos cuando sentimos miedo: \u00bfeste miedo me protege realmente?, \u00bfqu\u00e9 es lo peor que puede pasar?. De acuerdo con la neurociencia, incluso el miedo se construye de acuerdo con la definici\u00f3n que le damos a la palabra, entonces si creemos que sentimos miedo porque simplemente no encontramos una mejor palabra, provocamos que nuestro cuerpo act\u00fae de acuerdo con lo que significa sentir miedo. \u00bfPodr\u00edas ponerle otro nombre a esa emoci\u00f3n? \u00bfEs realmente miedo lo que estoy sintiendo? \u00bfPodr\u00eda ser simplemente indecisi\u00f3n, inseguridad o estr\u00e9s? Hablemos de los miedos que sentimos cuando no queremos fracasar, cuando creemos que no podemos ganar m\u00e1s dinero, cuando no queremos hacer el rid\u00edculo, cuando simplemente “no sabemos lo que va a pasar”. Esos miedos \u00bfpara qu\u00e9 los estoy sintiendo?, \u00bfque puedo aprender y sacar de ellos?. Por desgracia vivimos presas del miedo porque nuestro cerebro no encuentra una emoci\u00f3n m\u00e1s adecuada, vivimos encadenados al miedo porque nuestro cerebro busca mantenernos en el m\u00ednimo esfuerzo. Una frase poderosa para m\u00ed es: El dolor es real, pero el sufrimiento es opcional. Analiza tus miedos, analiza que es lo que te est\u00e1n diciendo, \u00bfquiere tu cerebro que simplemente sigas siendo la misma persona por comodidad? porque \u00bf”m\u00e1s vale malo conocido que bueno por conocer” ? Dir\u00e1n unos, “s\u00ed, claro, pero a ver, \u00bfy el miedo a la muerte?… A m\u00ed una vez me dijo mi psic\u00f3loga que cuando sentimos miedo a morir, en verdad a lo que le tenemos miedo es a “no vivir”; me hizo sentido y empec\u00e9 a vivir distinto. 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